Monday, December 26, 2011

family update

December 19th. The best day of my life, and the worst day.

I got to be a mom. Even if it was for just a few minutes before I had to send them back to their Father in Heaven, I got to be a mom.

Lucas and I have come to recognize our important role in the lives of our sweet babies. They were lucky enough to come to earth only for a short time to fulfill their missions. We were lucky enough to supply them with the bodies and the love they needed.

I am so grateful for the wonderful doctors and nurses at Memorial Hospital. They were there to support us through difficult times, and difficult news. They cried with us. They shared their own stories with us, and made me feel at home for the worst weekend of my life. In Indiana. When Josie and Wyatt were born, they let us hold them and take care of them for the few minutes they needed us. And then they let us hold them some more. They made phone calls for us, and took care of everything we needed. They let us be a family.

I don't know what I would have done without my Kane family. I wanted my mom to be there with me, but my in-laws were perfect. Their love and support was unmeasurable. We received so many wonderful and encouraging messages from our family and friends, we are so blessed.

Lucas is my rock. He didn't leave my side. He prayed with me and gave me Priesthood blessings. He was encouraging and faithful, and the best dad I could ever imagine for my babies. Oh how I love him.

My cousin Wendy shared this quote with me ... I've read it a hundred times in the last week:

Joseph Smith rightly taught:

"The mother who laid down her little child, being deprived of the privilege, the joy, and the satisfaction of bringing it up to manhood or womanhood in this world, would, after the resurrection, have all the joy, satisfaction, and pleasure, and even more than it would have been possible to have had in mortality, in seeing her child grow to the full measure of stature of it's spirit...When she does it there, it will be with the certain knowledge that the results will be without failure; whereas here, the results are unknown until after we have passed the test."

18 comments:

The Adams Family said...

I love you mindy and Lucas! You are amazing parents!!

Doug and Blaine Turk said...

Bless you both. May God bless and cherish your precious babies. Oh, I love your family so very much.

Stephanie said...

Just when I was starting to do a little better...this. Love you.

Ashleigh said...

Oh Mindy... I had no idea and my heart is just breaking for you. I am so very sorry. I hope you know that you have lots of friends and family that love you and are here for you. I will keep you and Luke in my prayers.

julieb said...

Mindy, I'm just crying for you. I love you guys. I wish we were there with you. You are one of the strongest people I know, and I know if anyone can get through this, you guys can. We are praying for you, and love love you. bffe
julie

r said...

I am so sorry about your losses. We're thinking of you!

Crockpot said...

I wish there was more we could do for you two. we are here when you need anything...food, babysitting of the boys...we love you and value your friendship. We are thinking of your family and praying for them.

Vicki Goodman said...

Thank you Mindy for sharing. You are both blessed and strengthened by this experience. My love to you and Lucas.

tiassa said...

Love you guys. Hope I can give you a hug in person soon.

Allison Box said...

I can't express how I feel for you. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. You are a wonderful person and mom! Your strength is amazing too. Hang in there! Love you Mindy!

kellie and jeff thomsen said...

Lucas and mindy. So sorry to hear about your loss. Loss of love and prayers are sent your way during this time.

Ross Co. said...

Those sweet little spirits have one incredible mother :) you amaze me! So grateful for eternal families!

Ela and Daniel Asisi said...

Mindy, you are a rock of inspiration. I'm so sorry to hear about your sweet babies. You and Lucas are in our prayers. Love, Ela and Daniel!

Kristen and Andrew said...

Mindy, I am so so sorry. Your testimony and positive attitude are amazing. I wish there was something I could do , or say, but I think that you know who to turn to and who can help. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Christian and Kennebec Vial said...

You both are officially amazing people. I'm glad you have each other. There is nothing better than a strong marriage and relationship with Heavenly Father.

Kayla said...

I'm so sorry for you guys! We are keeping you in our prayers. Let me know if I can do anything for you!

Gina said...

We are thinking about you and praying for you. Thank you for sharing your strength and faith.

Elliotts said...

Oh Mindy, my thoughts and prayers are definitely with you and Lucas at this time. You're sweet, loving blog entry touched my heart and I hope and pray that you and Lucas are doing okay. Sending love and prayers your way! - Ashley Elliott